Acceptance
When you are angry, you always justify your anger, but when someone else gets angry you always criticize. Your madness is natural, good but others’ madness is just ”perversion.” You always find some rationalization for it. The same is done by others, but then the same rationalization is not given. We have double standards –
One standard for one oneself and another standard for everyone else. This double-standard mind is going to be in deep misery always. This mind is not just, and unless your mind is just you cannot have a glimpse of the truth. Only a just mind can leave this double standard. If you criticize others, then apply that same criticism to yourself. One standard will transform your being totally, you become just and for the first time you can look straight into reality, as it is.
Just don’t condemn others. And if you are not condemning others, you will have a deep compassion for them, because the same problems are there. If someone commits a sin, a sin in the eyes of the society, you start condemning him, never thinking that you also have the seed to commit that sin within you. A moment later, who knows? You may be a murderer. So don’t condemn him, rather, accept, then you will feel a deep compassion.
A non-condemning mind will have compassion & deep acceptance. He knows that this is how humanity is and that ”this is how I am.”. Then the whole world will become just a reflection of your own self. It will become a mirror. Then every face becomes a mirror for you; you look at yourself in every face.
Acceptance becomes transformation. We have greed, we are sexual, we are angry, but we don’t accept it, we try to justify it. But rejection never transforms anything, it simply suppresses and becomes more powerful. It moves to our roots, to our unconscious deep down within us, and it begins functioning from there. We cannot accept it now because we are not even conscious of it. Acceptance brings everything up to the surface of the mind, and from the surface of the mind they can be thrown very easily. From the deep center they cannot be thrown. And when they are on the surface you are always aware of them, but when they are in the unconscious you become unaware. And a disease of which you are aware can be cured; a disease of which you are unaware cannot be cured.