In the sex act, do not seek the release

     Sex can be a very deep fulfillment, and sex can throw you back to your wholeness, to your natural, real being. One, sex is a total act. You are thrown off your mind, off balance. You are identified with the mind, and sex is a no-mind act. You become headless; there is no reasoning, no mental process. Do not think of the future or going anywhere; remain with the present.  And if there is any mental process, there is no real, authentic sex act. Then there is no orgasm, no fulfillment.

     This first sutra says don’t be in a hurry and do not hanker for the end: remain with the beginning. Remain with the beginning; beginning part is more relaxed, warm. But do not be in a hurry to move to the end. Forget the end completely. Don’t take it as a means: it is the end in itself.

     ”At the start of sexual union, keep attentive on the fire in the beginning.” While you are overflowing, do not think in terms of release: remain with this overflowing energy. Do not seek ejaculation: forget it completely. Be whole in this warm beginning. Remain with your beloved or your lover as if you have become one. Create a circle.

     Two lovers meeting creates three geometrical figures. You yourself & your partner are divided in two + two – into the thinking part and the feeling part, four persons are meeting. It is a crowd, no deep meeting, no communion because your deeper part is hidden really creates square. The meeting can be like a triangle; you are two angles of the base. For a sudden moment you become one, like the third angle of the triangle. For a sudden moment your two-ness is lost and you become one. That oneness gives you health, vitality. You feel alive and young. You become a circle, no angles, and the meeting is not for a single moment. The meeting is really non-temporal; there is no time in it, only if you are not seeking ejaculation.

     IF ejaculation is there, energy is dissipated. Then there is no more fire. You are simply relieved of your energy without gaining anything

     Enjoy the meeting of two bodies, two souls, and merge into each other, melt into each other. A deep, silent communion happens between two body energies, and then you can remain for hours together. This togetherness moves deeper and deeper as time passes. But don’t think. Remain with the moment deeply merged. It becomes an ecstasy, a samadhi, cosmic consciousness.   Celibacy can be attained through it!